Believe it or not, there is great power in learning and using positive language in all your conversations. When you learn this technique, you’ll find that you’ll be more persuasive in business meetings (and your personal life), and you’ll be able to work with people a lot better, both individually and in groups.
You might be confused into thinking that negative language works better, what with all the negativity in news headlines, and even on YouTube videos. But, the truth is that positivity works better every single time. In spite of notoriety of those horrible, negative headlines, study after study shows that the more positive that you can be, the better. As you focus on staying positive in your communication, remember these facts about POSITIVE COMMUNICATION.
Using Positive Language in Your Conversations
Positive Language Is Real Communication
Think about the person in the group who always has some wrench to throw into any plan, without giving any idea of what you can do to fix it. They only have negative things to say like, “That won’t work,” or, “That isn’t how it’s done.” None of that works to move anything forward. Therefore, it’s not even real communication, but ony venting for the sake of the person complaining, not for the greater good.
Positive Language Is Productive
Imagine how much more productive it is to say, “That’s true, but if you look more deeply…” instead of just saying, “You’re wrong.” Positive language is naturally more productive because it pushes people to think through an issue without feeling threatened. Even if you say something negative followed by something useful, most people still will not hear it – they’ll only hear the negativity. Always lead with the positive.
Positive Language Keeps the Peace
If you start any sentence with positivity, you will automatically calm any nerves and keep the peace. However, if you start out with something negative, people will just shut down immediately and it will be hard to get them back. It can make people defensive and on edge, while being positive pushes things forward and keeps everyone happy.
Positive Language Creates Victory
Imagine if the moon landing was reported negatively instead of with excitement and happiness. They certainly could have said something about the expense of the landing, how little time they spent on the moon for the cost, or how the astronauts lost muscle mass. Instead, they victoriouly proclaimed the positive side of it. Imagine the progress that was celebrated and that ensued with reporting the positive instead of the negative.
Practice Positive Language
Small changes in how you communicate can help you to practice positive language, and it will immediately begin to pay off. Instead of saying, “I don’t believe that,” say instead, “Here’s what I believe.” Instead of saying, “It won’t work,” say instead, “This might work better.” See if you can start to turn some negative statements into positive statements, and then keep practicing. Watch how it changes the produtivity and moral of your team or your peronal relationships. The more you can create positivity as a habit and the default, the better you’ll get at being positive in your everyday language.
Finally, take some time to understand what the trigger words or power words are within your niche or community. Avoid words like “bad,” “hate,” “problem,” or anything that has a negative connotation. Instead, try to think of a way to say the same thing, but without negative words. It will improve both your business and your personal relationships.